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Sep 25th, 2008

How to forgive....

Hmmm....I have been trying for years to figure that out...pretty much the last 26 years in fact!

Forgiveness was never really a wrod in my vast vocabulary...Always held firm to my belief that forgiveness was nothing more then excusing ones selfish acts.

I was forced to pay for ones sins starting at the age of three. Ostricised, beaten, and mentally tortured for years.

Take heed fathers....your sins will be paid by your sons...So how does one forgive somebody whose very acts caused me to pay for years..and paid I did. I apid the piper for him and continue to this day. Everyday a constant reminder...so how does one overcome that?

I cant kick the shit outta him obviously, can't have a heart to heart with him...but I know that it has cost me dear...I have lost many a good thing in my life due to my inability to simply forgive & forget...

So please tell me...what is the process one goes through...what is the trick...when are you ready to truly forgive one for all the scars and damage left behind for you to see and feel on a daily basis...as a grim reminder of the past prices paid...

How does one truly forgive....

Posted by bipolarwreck at 07:50 on Sep 25th, 2008

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intrepidtraveler Feeling okay	Posted on 07:53AM on Sep 25th, 2008 "Hating someone is drinking poison and expecting the other person to die from it." believe it or not there is a very good article on this online! =P http://www.wikihow.com/Forgive
bipolarwreck	Posted on 07:54AM on Sep 25th, 2008 Thank you Traveler...will have to check it out and maybe gain some insight...
intrepidtraveler Feeling okay	Posted on 07:57AM on Sep 25th, 2008 i hope it helps. (((hugs)))
m0rec0wbell Feeling thankful	Posted on 08:02AM on Sep 25th, 2008 Forgive "that"...sigh! Let me know if you find out how. The hate is gone, so is the misdirected anger and the grief. But forgiveness... nope. Even after he's died, I still have no forgiveness. I still think may he rot in hell.
Drumsong	Posted on 08:16AM on Sep 25th, 2008 The only way to be able to forgive is to be able to let it go. So long as you hold onto your anger, it consumes part of you by forcing you to live in the past instead of in the moment. I know it's a lot harder than those words make it seem... trust me, I do. But, I've found that it's the only way to be able to achieve peace and serenity in oneself.
nopeeking	Posted on 09:42AM on Oct 7th, 2008 I agree w/Drumsong .... you have to let it go in order to get over it. Much easier said than done. You have to make a conscious decsion to stop letting it get the best of you and make each decision w/that in mind. Good luck!
Tinkerbell2	Posted on 07:58AM on Nov 13th, 2008 You don't have to like the person to forgive you just have to be ready to let go of the hurt and even then you may find yourself still hurting from time to time. You have to stop hating it took me the longest to do that and to realize that it was hurting me more than anyone else. I had to let go of hating my worst enemy my own father but it still hurts like hell sometimes. Hope you are doing good. (((((((HUGS))))))))
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